How Can a Right Brainer Pave Their Way?

Feeling confident and driven is a full-time job. Some days I am totally invigorated, I have clear direction and a perfectly drawn out roadmap for my life and then the next day I wake up and suddenly my map is blank. Consistently believing in my plan and my purpose does not come naturally to me. I really have to work at staying focused and true to myself. Can you relate?

I believe that we are all on this earth for some specific reason. Some people know their reason and never question it. Their map is clear and steady. Others, like me, spend a lot of time searching for their reason and the map is constantly redrawn. We become expert cartographers 😉 Finding purpose becomes a process for us rather than an innate sense of being. 

If I had to guess, I would suspect that those of us map makers are right brain thinkers and those that are not are the lefties. The reason I would guess this is because as right brain thinkers we feel out reasoning rather than deduce it,  we prefer nonconformity to structure, we have to find passion and connection to what we’re doing be it work or hobby, we are creative, we have a need to believe in something, we want to make our own decisions with little to no supervision, we are emotional, we strive to find our God-given gifts to share with the world, and the kicker -we usually prefer NOT to follow mainstream movements.

So, it makes sense that as we feel out why we’re here, what we can contribute, and how to connect to it that we’d have to begin, edit, and begin again many many times. It also makes sense that as we figure this out, we will likely go against the conventional grain – and while that’s where we thrive, it doesn’t always feel comfortable. Sometimes outsiders or our beloved lefties will look at us like we’re crazy (there she goes again!), they’ll question us (but, that means you’ll make half of what you used to make?), they might try to push the practical choices onto us (you can’t get a job in art, get a business degree, save art as a hobby) – and they do this because they love us, but they don’t necessarily understand us. Which is okay! I don’t understand why my husband feels the need to research a new vacuum battery for two hours – just buy the darn thing, man! But then he wouldn’t understand why I’d buy the first vacuum battery that fits whether it has the best lifespan or not. 

The point here is not to say that lefties are better than rights or vice versa, the point is to acknowledge that we are different and that it takes all types of people to make the world go round. I would just say that I understand how the struggle can be real for us right-brainers since our paths are not always as clear cut or accepted. It takes a LOT of soul searching, hustle, and commitment to live our authentic right-brained lives while still being able to pay the bills JIt’s easy to feel discouraged and doubt your roadmap when you’re literally the only one writing it, there’s no Google Maps for this route! But the key is remembering that you’re not alone, half the world has felt the same strife, and more than that – others have done it before you – which means, you got this!

Though I’m no expert, here are my Top Ten Tips to help my fellow right-brainers pave their way more confidently and consistently:

  1. EMBRACE BEING DIFFERENT, don’t try to hide it.
  2. Trust your gut. The more I trust my gut instinct, the more I’m realizing it’s right.
  3. It’s okay to revise your plan.
  4. Even if it is slow progress; progress is progress.
  5. Have an answer for those practical left-brained questions and doubts. My husband and best friend are lefties and I value their opinions so much because I don’t naturally think like they do. Let them help you make smarter choices by incorporating BOTH feeling and reason.
  6. A pay check does not define you, though it does keep the lights on. Sometimes a pay cut is worth it to do what you truly want to do.
  7. Remember that we NEED art, books, floral arrangements, delicious recipes, beautifully designed living rooms, and fashion just as much as we need science breakthroughs, perfectly engineered bridges, and cutting-edge healthcare.
  8. Being emotional does not make you weak. In fact, you can use that emotion to help pave your way. Bottle up that passion and apply it!
  9. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! This is the most crippling thing you can do to stunt your own growth. Look at your peers as comrades not competitors. 
  10. Enjoy the process because nothing truly awesome happens overnight. Be proud of the moments you acknowledge when you need to pivot your plan and rewrite your map because those are the moments in which you are learning and growing. 

Come back to these as many times as you need to in order to maintain that confidence and motivation. Redraw that map as often as you like and bask in the revisions because there truly is beauty in the process.

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Published by Ashley Rae

Hi, I'm Ashley and I'm so thrilled you've found me! My goal for this blog is to provide you with thoughtful musings and pretty pictures - no, really - that's it. There may be some food along the way, but I won't have cooked it or I'd fear for all of us! I'm an old soul with many random thoughts and tastes and I hope to share those with you. I, like many of us, am on a journey to find my purpose and if any of my random musings help or inspire you then yay! I want everyone to know, learn, and embrace their individuality. I'm a big proponent of blazing your own trail (if that's what you feel is right for you) and I hope to inspire you to do so! My life has been quite the zig and quite the zag, but it's lovely. I don't think anyone could say I've done things the easy way or the normal way and that's a-okay with me! So join me and maybe we can find ourselves and our purpose together! -Ashley

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