Not all who wander are lost…

Not all who wander are lost.

In the past ten year’s time I have:

  1. Moved 26 times. Once internationally and 6 cross country.
  2. Travelled to 11 different countries.
  3. Got married!
  4. Obtained one bachelors degree (in business) and one masters degree (in art history).
  5. Changed jobs 6 times.Dyed my hair for the first time ever!
  6. Broke up with 1 friend and 6 boyfriends.
  7. Wrote a thesis.
  8. Read who knows how many books, literally have no idea, it’s so many.
  9. Ran three 10Ks (that’s far for these little legs).
  10. Learned to love Indian Food and oysters (I would eat Indian food for every meal until the end of my days if I could).
  11. Hiked in the Rocky Mountains.
  12. Lived in London.
  13. Totalled two cars, yes two! Don’t worry, everyone is okay.
  14. Took a ride on a Gondola in Venice (yeah, super touristy, but it was our honeymoon!)
  15. Ate at my first Michelin Star restaurant.
  16. Stood by the side of multiple best friends when they said “I do”.
  17. Turned 30. (Still trying to wrap my head around this one).
  18. Raced a car in Autocross!
  19. Drank my first gin martini.
  20. Learned how to knit, it’s cool I swear. 

…and so much more. But the point is, I’VE LIVED! I’ve seen a lot, done a lot, learned a lot and now I hope to share those experiences. Here’s why

I am an eclectic person. 

deriving ideas, style, or taste from a broad and diverse range of sources.

It is a label that I have willingly given myself and fully embrace. It’s in opposition to labels like “lost”, “adrift”, or “off-track”, identifiers that I fear are applied to me by outsiders. I hope I can shift that mindset.

Frequent and drastic transformation can be alarming in a world where consistency and normalcy are held in such high esteem. Whether explicitly stated or intrinsically understood we learn that the expectation of life is to follow a “normal” path. Go to school, get a job, get married, have babies, raise babies to repeat the cycle. Sound familiar? By no means do I think “normal” is wrong, bad, boring, or negative in any way. We need ALL types of life paths.  I simply wish to to show that there are alternative routes to live your life if that is what you feel called to do. I’ve basically followed a “normal” path, but it has taken me A LOT longer than my peers and there have been many twists and turns along the way. Those twists and turns are what make me eclectic – they are what make me, me.

There’s only one me and there is only one you and that’s what makes the world so awesome – we are different. We each bring a unique perspective to life and how we approach living. You may be totally fulfilled with “normal” and have no idea what I mean by “feeling called to pursue something different”, or you may feel like you’re being pulled in another direction. I felt that pull for a long time and I’m here to tell you that it does not make you weird and you are not a failure if you choose to act on exploring a different route. It’s just different, as simple as that.

It can be terrifying to go outside of what is “normal”, but it can be equally as gratifying. You could fail or be a huge success. Either way, don’t you think it’s better to try than to live your life wondering “what if?”. I encourage those who feel called to pursue a different path to do it in spite of being different or even because it is different. Be brave, embrace the journey, take a leap – you never know what might be on the other side.

That is my why.

Published by Ashley Rae

Hi, I'm Ashley and I'm so thrilled you've found me! My goal for this blog is to provide you with thoughtful musings and pretty pictures - no, really - that's it. There may be some food along the way, but I won't have cooked it or I'd fear for all of us! I'm an old soul with many random thoughts and tastes and I hope to share those with you. I, like many of us, am on a journey to find my purpose and if any of my random musings help or inspire you then yay! I want everyone to know, learn, and embrace their individuality. I'm a big proponent of blazing your own trail (if that's what you feel is right for you) and I hope to inspire you to do so! My life has been quite the zig and quite the zag, but it's lovely. I don't think anyone could say I've done things the easy way or the normal way and that's a-okay with me! So join me and maybe we can find ourselves and our purpose together! -Ashley

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